BLESSING OR CURSE? by Sister Aliya Yeoh Abdullah

Assalamualaikum dear MBA members.

This is an article by Sister Aliya Yeoh Abdullah who blogs at

Sister Aliya is a Malaysian Secondary Schoolteacher and writes absolutely heartfelt life stories based upon her own very interesting life as a Revert to Islam.

I have always enjoyed reading her stories and appreciate the sincerity that she types into each word and sentence, it’s like watching a movie come alive from the way she expertly conjures up the feelings and expressions into her words.

Sister Aliya’s works are a joy and a source of inspiration to her readers and friends.

Enjoy her first contribution to the MBA here.

BLESSING OR CURSE? by Sister Aliya Yeoh Abdullah

“You’re not going to the surau today?” Mrs. Tan (not her real name) asked me.
“Nope, I’m having my day off.”
“Day off?”
“Menses.. monthly period.”

“Oh… It’s degrading isn’t it, the way women are treated in Hindu and Islam. You can’t pray when you’re having your periods.”

I was shocked at her comment. Recovering quickly, I replied, ” Well actually no. Islam treats women so well that we are given the days off when we’re having our monthly menses.”

“What do you mean?”
“Well, as we all know, having menses can be very messy and physically tiring for women. Some suffer from cramps. Allah is Most Merciful, so Muslim women are excused form performing the prayer and fasting when she is coping with the monthly menses. In fact, it’s a sin for the woman to perform the 5 times a day solat during this time of the month. It’s not a punishment but rather, a compassionate gift for women.”

“But I thought women can’t pray at this time because they’re unclean?”

“Muslim women can still pray or doa to Allah, and recite the zikir or praises to Him. It’s just that she doesn’t need to perform the 5 times a day prayer ritual or solat, because it’s physically taxing on her during her menses. Allah in His wisdom lifted the load of solat prayer and the burden of fasting for Muslim women during these times of her life. Uncleanliness is only in her menstrual blood, not her physical self. She can still be with her husband, except having sexual intercourse.”

“But why prevent a woman from praying as usual? Isn’t menses a natural part of a woman’s biological cycle that God makes for a woman?”

“Tell me, are you in a good mood when you’re having your menses? Would you voluntarily wake up at the early hours of dawn, or you’d prefer to sleep a little longer? Do you like to perform exercises when you’re suffering discomfort from menstrual cramps? Do you want to go hungry for hours when you’re having your menses?”

“Of course I’d prefer to sit and rest if I can.”

“Naturally. So Muslim women are exempted from observing prayer or solat, and fasting during her menses because both these tasks are difficult and physically demanding. It’s not a punishment. It’s actually Allah’s gift for the Muslim woman during her menses, to remove hardship and religious obligations from her and allow her space to focus on what she is experiencing during her monthly cycle.”

“So you mean it’s actually to help the women, not as a form of treating women as second-class worshippers?”

“Women are respected in Islam, contrary to what many people prefer to believe. Allah in His wisdom and mercy has ordered women to stop performing her prayer and fasting at such times. So a Muslim woman who does not perform prayer and fast during her menses is actually worshipping Allah too. She obeys His commands and submit to Him.”

“But why can’t she go to the mosque and read the Quran at these times?”

“Actually anyone who is impure, like a man who has just made love to his wife, can’t read the Quran or go to the mosque unless they wash themselves clean first through ablution or mandi hadas. It’s nothing to do with being a woman or a man. In Islam, we show great respect and reverence for the Creator, which is why we wash ourselves clean first and wear clean clothing when we perform the prayer before Him, as well as touch the Holy Quran.”

“So a Muslim woman is actually respected when she’s having her menses?”

“Yes, of course. Muslim women are prevented from praying not because she’s dirty/unclean during her menses. Actually she’s given the holidays from God Almighty so that she can rest and regain her strength. Allah does not intend to place any difficulty on the shoulders of His servants. When a person is experiencing difficulty, Islam will give him or her some concessions that make life easy.”

” I see..”

“Do you know how many days a woman is exempted from performing the solat every month?”

“One week?”

” As long as she’s having her menses.Maximum is 14 days. And she doesn’t have to replace the number of prayers she doesn’t perform at those times. That’s how merciful Allah is to Muslim women.”

“Ok… now I understand.”

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Such is the beautiful short article penned by Sister Aliya Yeoh who has through her wisdom shared with her Non Muslim Chinese schoolteacher colleague about the beautiful manner by which Almighty Allah honors the women in Islam and that instead of being ostracised as they were in the Age of Ignorance, the Muslim women are accorded due respect and given their dignity in the Muslim society when it is that time of the month and they are having their menses.

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala has in His Infinite Wisdom given the Muslimah her special time during each month when she is having her menses to rest and recuperate and doesn’t burden them with having to repeat or restitute any of the Solat that she misses during the flow of her menses.

The Muslimah is honored with the respect, mercy and care shown to her by her husband and she is not shunned as in the Age of the Jahiliyyah.

Sister Aliya beautifully captures the essence of our Islamic teachings and shares it so wonderfully with her readers.

We are honored to have Sister Aliya as a member of The Muslim Bloggers Alliance.

May Almighty Allah bless and shower her with the best of this life and in the hereafter. Ameen.

To read more great articles from Sister Aliya, click on to Musings of a Mualaf.

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