Sperm Donor Half Siblings – Islamic Perspective.

In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful.
Islam places the honor and dignity of Mankind in the highest level of living life in human society. No matter what caste or creed one finds oneself in nowadays, the reality of one’s lineage and heritage remains the utmost important bedrock of one’s personal being amidst the human society in general.
With the advent of modern science and technology today, scientists and biologists have succeeded in discovering new methods and formulas to assist in human procreation and reproductive advancements.
Years before the Revelation of the Glorious Quran, Mankind did not have any idea as to how we are created and formed to be who we are and how we come to be?
Yet, amongst the very first revelations of the Qur’an to Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassallam is the verse https://quran.com/96/2 .
This verse explains to Mankind that we are created from a ‘clinging substance’. Watch the video:

How is it that Muhammad, an illiterate , unlettered Prophet of Allah, God Almighty can so accurately share this very scientific accurate information about the Creation of Man through these very exact revelations if they are not from Almighty God, Himself, almost 981 years before the invention and discovery of the microscope?

Now we know that human reproduction and conception in the womb of the mothers takes place when one out of the millions of ejaculated spermatozoa from the human father succeeds in impregnating the ovum secreted by the human mother when she is fertile.

In our human society, we have a set of norms. When a young man and woman is ready for marriage, we go about practicing time honored cultures and traditions where the young man and his representatives go seek the hand of the chosen woman as his bride to be.

We might differ in these methods by way of our time honored social and cultural traditions. Yet the main core values remain as a binding force of our individual societies identities.

Today, the whole damn world’s population seems hell bent on repeating the sordid acts of the people of Prophet Lut Alaihis Salam by engaging in homosexual and lesbianism all in the name of freedom and ‘human rights’. LGBTQ meaning ‘Lesbian, Gay [Homosexuals], Bisexual, Transgender and Queer seem to be gaining huge support from the Western countries and even the Catholic Church can’t do much to stop the rot.

Even their ‘Clergy’ are made up of such abominable types. Many a case of priests sodomizing young altar boys of the various churches has rocked the very foundation of Christendom and even nuns have fallen victims to lecherous priests and pastors.

The Muslim religious world is not squeaky clean itself either. Every now and then we read of Imams and Murshids of Madrassas committing the same crimes and when they get caught, often blame the Devil for their sins!

What a whole load of bullshit! Syaitan has got nothing to do with these crimes. They commit these grave major sins with full knowledge of what they are doing and often try to wriggle themselves out of the situation when caught with their robes down.

The problem with many so called ‘Muslim countries’ is that their Rulers, Presidents, Emir’s and Sultan’s seriously lack the commitment to uphold the true Islamic teachings and Syariah rulings.

In their bid to seek the popular vote and support of the deviant masses, many of these rulers and heads of state, choose to seek an alternative to the Syariah Laws of Allah, God Almighty and decree that lesser punishments be meted out for serious offenses.

Thus, adulterers, fornicators and those committing debauchery and incest are let off with just a ‘slap on the wrist’ type of sentences, emboldening the masses to continue living a life of Sin, not bothered with the Do’s and Don’ts of their faiths.

In Islam, the punishment for Zina @ Adultery committed by an unmarried person is a 100 lashes of the cane that is meant to educate and reform the offender.

The punishment for those adulterers who are married is death by stoning.

In today’s unfortunate world, the adulterers, fornicators and perpetrators of incest are merely let off with a small fine or a jail term that does not cause them to repent and turn over a new leaf in their life.

The end result is that society tends to become worse and a living nightmare for women, young children and those who are weak and unprotected.

At times, they are often ravaged and violated by the very officials who are supposed to protect them!

These LGBTQ practitioners are the result of the apathy shown by the so called authorities of many countries of the world today.

Men engaging in homosexual acts with men, women committing homosexual acts with women and those who turn into transvestites are the sinners who are causing grievous damage to the norms of human society.

Let me now, start with the main topic of this article. Half-siblings borne out of sperm donor conceivements.

To the lay person reading this heading, he or she might just accept it at face value. Half-sibling. Meaning sharing a common parent.

Be it the biological mother or father. If the parents are lawfully married, no problems, whether legally or from the religious aspect.

If otherwise, here’s where the complications arise.

I would like to draw your attention to this particular case where a young man who was born from a conceivement using a sperm donor in his search for his biological father discovers that he has not one or two but 32 half-siblings born to so many other unmarried mothers.

In reality, all these 32 + 1 persons are bastards.

You may say that calling them so is harsh but we have to call them just for what their true status is as per both the legal and religious aspects.

Call a spade just that and do not legitimize whatever is illegal or against the law from both whatever is manmade or from Almighty God.

They can’t inherit property for their being born out of an out of wedlock conceivement denies them such rights.

Please refer to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legitimacy_(family_law)

Their whole genealogical family tree is all screwed up and devoid of legitimacy.

Actually, these unfortunate souls who are offsprings of bad decision makers in the form of their LGBTQ mothers and those irresponsible sperm donors are the victims of a society that simply doesn’t care or give a damn about the consequences of their lusts.
Islam has all the answers to avoid all these mess but as we all know, the Western media seems too occupied with sending the wrong messages about Islam to the gullible ignorants of the world.
Do not despair. Seek the Guidance and Light of Islam from Our Creator, Allah the Most Merciful.
He will hear you.

Don’t try and marry a convert if… by Sister Alicia Alexander a.k.a. Nomad Noor

+Warning this is a rant+

Dear Brothers in Islam Seeking a Convert Wife,

Please don’t express interest in a convert if you can’t deal with the issues that a convert to Islam has. Just save us sisters the disappointment and maybe even heart break – oh yeah.. and TIME.

Don’t claim to be a Sunnah loving brother if your sitting on your high horse judging the sister you expressed interest in based on her past BEFORE Islam.

So she had sex before marriage? Big deal!  I know so many brothers who are born or converted to Islam who have done the same thing.  The amount of hypocrisy in that single statement can’t be contained in an OCEAN- let alone a bucket.

She has a kid or kids from a previous marriage or relationship?  Umm isn’t that a positive given there is proof she can have a kid?  Geez.. you don’t even have proof your half of the DNA you want to share is viable.

She may have struggled with addictions such as alcohol or drugs of some form or another.

She may have been abused. Verbally, Sexually, Mentally, Financially, Emotionally, Physically or Digitally. She now may have issues trusting men among other things.

Why would you be doing such a thing given those sins are forgiven in the eyes of Allah?  Especially if your a convert too.

Don’t hold a convert to a higher or lower standard than a born Muslim.  A convert is just another Muslim – so the standard should stay the same regardless.

Converts aren’t some rare breed of Muslim that has special powers or skills that you will benefit from should you be able to persuade one to actually marry you.

For converts usually the main issue is usually our families.  We deal with family issues most born Muslim’s should be grateful to avoid.

Example of a Convert to Islam ~ American Rapper who has reverted

Example of a Convert to Islam ~ American Rapper who has reverted

Our families drink, do drugs, have sex before marriage or are just generally promiscuous, are gay, transgender, bi sexual, some are hard-core Jews, Christians etc, some families serve pork to their new Muslim family members to express their disapproval, others disown or kick out their converted family member.

As converts we struggle constantly to strike a balance between Islam and our families.  We desire to be good Muslims for the sake of Allah at the same time we want to respect and honor our parents and families.  So we have to make a choice – when to be flexible and when to not be when it comes to the things our families ask of us.

When it comes to marriage most of us were raised with a belief in love and happily ever after – yes even the guys.  Our families aren’t traditionally as involved in mate selection as other cultures and religions are.  So our father’s aren’t usually going to be asking for your last 10 years tax returns, social security number and driving record.  Our families view a marriage as between two individuals most of the time not between two families.  Although the TV Show Dynasty might have changed that.

I have to personally make choices between do I share in Xmas celebrations or not? I judge that based on what the true motivation is behind the celebration as my family isn’t religious – I feel comfortable doing so.. knowing its about the actual time off from work and that the time has be designated to share time with family.  How offensive would that be to my family?  If I said.. no?  On a scale of 1 -10 probably an 8.

Do I go to a dinner where my families will consume alcohol or not?  How offensive would that be? I choose to attend knowing people will be doing a haraam activity from the Islamic perspective because it would offend people if I didn’t attend.  My family would be confused and hurt.

And until I am married – Paradise is at the feet of my mother.

I could not live a life of peace if I spent every second of every day worrying about the small stuff.  Never is there any sort of Dunya.. in which perfection exists for the average Muslim.  My religious choice isn’t everyone else’s – so those standards don’t apply.

So Dear Brothers in Islam seeking a Convert Wife – Seek your future wife for her religion, beautiful personality, smile and the way she makes you feel better on the cloudiest of days.  Knowing that the values, moral and ethical code apply to you and her.. and Insya Allah your future family together – don’t apply to hers.  Understand that she has hard choices to make and that at times they will be extremely painful for one reason or another.

Insya Allah, then you’re ready to get married to a convert.

Sincerely,

A. Alexander

Convert since August 2007

When Bloggers start getting distracted and abandon their blogs!

A bit morbid, one might say but that is the sorry state that I find many of the blogs belonging to quite a number of the ‘registered’ bloggers here in the MBA!

What can I say? As there’s no ‘Compulsion’ in forcing anyone into Islam, so is the same for those who were once so gung ho about joining the MBA eleven years ago but now reduced to just a few who still somehow have it in them to continue blogging.

In fact, this site went flatline a week or two ago when yours truly had some difficulty in renewing the hosting and as a result, www.themuslimbloggersalliance.org technically went into the ‘twilight zone‘.

Tried asking for help from a few of the members whom I hoped would be able to help pay for the hosting and restoration fees, but unexpectedly, these well to do professionals went mute. I understand. It’s okay.

I have been paying out of my own pockets for all the domain renewal and hosting fees all these years as my commitment to keep this MBA up and running. Allah knows I tried. Anyway, life goes on.

What I would like to advise those whose blogs are ‘dead‘ is to remember that our efforts here on Earth is to help share the Truth about Islam and to dispel any lies and slanders against our Faith that seems to crop up like poisonous mushrooms every now and then.

You do not have to reinvent the wheel so to speak. Just hold firm to the Rope of Allah @ namely the Glorious Quran and to refer to the Authentic Hadiths and Sunnah of our Greatest Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam when sharing about Islam.

Always remember to follow Allah’s Commandment to us in Chapter 16, Verse 125 in the Holy Quran and do not go overboard in your manner of deliverance. Remember that our main purpose in being a Muslim Blogger is to help draw people to Islam.

Not scare them away with any extremism or unIslamic conduct. We are not those considered to be the Infallibles. We are not free from sin. Yet that should not dampen our spirits from wanting to cleanse ourselves from our errors and faults.

You can start all over again and grow your online presence once again. If you are reading this, it means that you are still alive and breathing. Do not give up on yourself. Not just yet! Hehehehe..

There’s still some sense of Life in you. Clear those proverbial cobwebs from your mind. Tell yourself, that you still have that fire burning within you. 🙂 There’s still hope.

Arise O you Muslim Blogger and be the Bright Spark that you once were! Get writing and Publish!

Insya Allah! You can do it!

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‘Muslims’ today are waging war against each other in the Middle East!

Would you not agree?

We are witnessing today, the world’s so-called Muslim nations suffering from strife and in disorder despite the huge amount of wealth and resources that Allah Azza Wa Jalla has bestowed upon us.

The hot burning sands of the Arabian desert was once a desolate, arid barren humongous expanse of parched land which even the Romans and Greeks of yesteryears shunned and bypassed to look for the riches of Egypt and elsewhere.

Allah the Most Merciful blessed the Middle Eastern countries with Oil in their lands. Petroleum. The most sought after Fossil Fuel that is much needed to operate automobiles and power generators.

These mostly ‘Muslim’ countries sadly are led by their leaders and rulers who spend the newfound wealth mostly on their flamboyant lifestyles and do not use it to help their long suffering Muslim brethren in less fortunate nations.

Today, we see the people of Yemen, brutally massacred by Saudi Arabian and UAE armed forces. More than 50,000 poor Yemenis have died from the aerial bombardment by Saudi Arabian fighter jets and many more as a result of hunger and malnutrition caused by the Saudi led blockade. 

https://youtu.be/bZyRDDBEYbU

Instead of helping one another as enjoined in Islam, these Middle Eastern Arabs, who are ‘Muslims’ in name are waging war against their brethren south of the Arabian Peninsula.

Guess who are Saudi Arabia’s major weapons suppliers? The Americans, British, EU and others.

Life Changes: Choosing Divorce-American Muslimah’s Musings

Dear Reader,

I have not written in a while because I felt my life wasn’t social media worthy – shiny, picture perfect, staged just so and I did not want my life to become gossip fodder for those who have a negative intent or ill will towards me.

Over the last three years, I have struggled in my marriage with my husband.  We have attended marriage counseling twice both times initiated by myself.  I had hoped we could work through the issues we faced as a couple.  Some of the issues were not my own.  Some of them were.

I wavered back and forth to stay in my marriage or not.   There was a lot of familial and social pressure to stay – no matter what the issue that I was facing.  There was support from good friends and family to leave and set me up for a smooth transition out of the marriage.

I fought to reenter the workforce applying to over 150 jobs.  I succeeded when my daughter was 18 months old because I could foresee where things were heading.  I knew that if I did nothing that I there was a high probability I would shortly be homeless with a small child.

I could not rely on him.  I could not trust him to do the right thing.

I would hope I could again and again only to be disappointed.

I paid for and did all the paperwork for my husband to immigrate to this country.

I helped my husband gain his first job here in the United States working part-time for UPS and he was content with this.

I saw how he did not have a hunger for education to improve his career outcome and financial standing by working on his English language ability or seek to get a job that required full-time hours.

He was comfortable doing the bare minimum to get by.  He was comfortable and ok having us on MediCal and food stamps. He was comfortable and ok with my mom paying our rent. He saw no reason to change and step up.

I continued to see evidence of my husband’s lack of care and selfishness.  My mother in law asked me to take care of my husband and I think I and my family have stepped up to do so really well.

I finally decided it was time to rip the band-aid off in July.  So after 5 plus years of marriage, I filed for divorce.

I grew tired of being the sole responsible person in this marriage.  I am tired of not being a priority for my spouse.  I am tired of begging for affection and love only to be rejected in favor of pornography and sex workers.  I am tired of working full-time, being the parent, maid and cook all alone.

I am tired of being lonely.  I am tired of being tired.

I accept I can not change another person.  I can only change myself and control myself.

It is healthier for my daughter and myself that I not remain in a marriage where I am something to be used at my husband’s convenience be it for sex, money, a verbal punching bag or validation.

I felt I was a single parent long before this divorce started.  I do not think its right that I or any other parent should have to fight or argue to get the parent of the child to care for that kid’s needs – for example, something as simple as a diaper change regardless if the mother works outside of the home or not.

Being a parent means that you sacrifice your needs or delay them to tend to the needs of your child in my opinion especially when they are in the three years and under age group when their needs are the most intense and basic.

Some in the community and family would say – just stay – tough it out and do not air your “dirty laundry.”  To them I say – how is that in line with our Prophetic tradition and more importantly our Qur’an?  We were not made to suffer within unhappy and unhealthy relationships as my marriage has been.  It is this demand for silence and suffering that perpetuates abuse within our community.

It enables those who are not ready for the spiritual, financial and emotional responsibilities that being in a marriage entails – to get married and create a pool of single mothers that then struggle to create support networks, reenter the workforce, move out of poverty and fend off being targeted by men who would abuse their power and privilege – not to marry these women but seek sexual gratification in the guise of the promise of marriage or even orfi (temporary) marriage.

Marriage is work and it is not all sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns.   The wedding and all of the pomp and circumstance around it is not the entirety of a marriage.

Marriage can be a boring daily grind where you simply are happy that the person you chose to be with is there in the trenches with you as you collapse into bed at midnight knowing you are both going to get up and repeat the cycle again the next day.

I remain optimistic that I will one day find the right partner for this journey in the Dunya.   My journey right now requires me to make hard decisions with a focus on what is healthy, safe and moves myself and child forward to a better future.


“There’s a difference between giving up and knowing when you’ve had enough.”

Dicing with Death ~ Winner or Sinner? Our Choice.

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Ya Ikhwanul Muslimin na wal Mukminat. Today I am inviting you to think about the inevitable. Our Last Moment here on Earth. Our Death. Ajal.

Is there any guarantee that we would be in Allah’s good graces when our Time is up? Just like the metronome, our fate depends on what we are up to at the very second the Malaikatul Maut @ Angel of Death, Sayyidina Izra’il Alaihis Salam comes a calling upon us.

You never know whether we are going to Heaven or Hell depending on our last deed here on Earth?

In Surah Al Munafiqun, Chapter 63 Verse 10, Allah Azza Wa Jall reminds us to be in His Path using what He has provided us with for if and when Death approaches us, we would be inclined to ask for a postponement in order that we would then be charitable in the hope of ending up among the righteous.

So, in a way, we are all dicing with Death. The Choice of being a Winner or get caught up with our moment of Death where we would be classified as a Sinner!

Would we get to pass away from this Life in Husnul Khatimah @ The Best of Ending or end up in Su’ul Khatimah? The Worst of Ending’s? Na’uzubillah! May Allah Forbid!

Death is inevitable. It doesn’t care if you are a Royal King or ordinary Commoner. Even if you are being surrounded by the best doctors and specialists of the world, when your time is up, you will die. Period.

Don’t wait to be a Muslim till you are already breathing your last on your deathbed. Sure, your entire record of sins which you have committed are erased and deleted from your accounts the minute that you declare your attestment of faith @ Shahadah towards Allah the Almighty and attesting that Muhammad is the [Final] Messenger of Allah but surely embracing Islam and living your life as a Muslim whilst you are young and healthy would be much more meaningful.

Be thankful that you are still alive by the Grace and Mercy of Allah and getting to read and understand all that is being shared here in this article.

You owe it to yourself to decide where you wish to end up after leaving this earthly existence. Choose where you want your soul to be after your death.

Heaven or Hell?

Your Choice.

Ramadhan Mubarak! 1440 AH/ 2019 CE. Blessed Month.

MBA Bloggers Ramadhan Well Wishes

We would like to wish all our fellow Muslims, a Blessed Ramadhan this 1440 AH / 2019 CE.

Despite all that we see taking place in this challenging times in these End Times, the spirit of Goodwill and Month of Purification of both our bodies and soul takes precedence over everything else.

May Allah the Most Compassionate and Most Merciful accept our Fasting and other Ibadah and reward us with His Forgiveness and Blessings.

Ameen.

Dr. Zakir Naik ~ Caller to Islam via Comparative Religious Dialogues.

Dr.Zakir Naik

I am sure that you know who Dr.Zakir Naik is? He is at the moment, the most talked about Caller to Islam in today’s world, who is quite feared by those Hindu, Christian and other Non Muslim heads of religion for being able to debate and defeat most of them in Comparative Religious forums,etc.

He has taken up Permanent Residence here in Malaysia because the Indian Bharatiya Janata Party led Hindu majority Government has issued an arrest warrant for him on charges of money laundering and inspiring acts of terrorism. Fearing a biased judicial outcome based upon the history of PM Narendra Modi’s involvement in inaction when the Gujarat Hindu massacre of Muslims took place, I can understand Dr.Zakir’s staying put here in Malaysia. Safety first!

The world needs to be fair when it comes to judging a person who strives to clear the misunderstandings about Islam through his public discussions and dialogues carried out in an open public discourse. Anyone of his critics is free to step up and stand before a microphone and ask him questions related to the topic or subject of his speech. He or she can go ahead and prove him wrong if they are able to, right before the hundreds if not thousands of his audience.

Problem is, most of them don’t even dare to do so. All they are prone to doing is to vehemently protest and castigate him when gathered in groups but none dare do so before him in any public forum or speaking function which he regularly holds here. Why?

Why do they not dare to do so? One of the reasons could be that they do not possess the knowledge about their own professed faith or have it in them to be able to speak point to point against him in a professional and educated manner. They usually do not know in depth about what their own scriptures or ‘holy books’ contain. Hence their animosity towards the learned Dr.Zakir Abdul Karim Naik.

There is a saying that ‘Knowledge is Power‘. Thus, those who lack such knowledge fear Dr. Zakir Naik for his knowing more about whatever faith that they claim to profess and are reluctant to challenge him in an open platform such as his public events which are held quite often.

As a fellow Muslim and Caller to Islam in my own way, I fully support Dr.Zakir Naik in his vision and mission to share about Islam, the birthright of every human being here on Earth.

Insya Allah.

The Hijab Fetish: Hijab Makes Couples Horny by Dr. Afiza Azmee

The Hijab Fetish?

The title of this post is intriguing.

Controversial MUCH?

Trust me, it’s gonna get juicier and juicier as we go along. I am pouring my heart and soul into this post…because I have been observing this phenomena for almost 5 years now and it’s been getting more and more obvious to this practiced eyes of mine that I simply could not ignore it anymore.

Since this phenomena is not gonna go away anytime so, I have decided to make fun out of it. Might as well get a big great laugh out of something that can’t be helped rather than continuing being annoyed by it.

I have decided that I would be amused instead (as much as we can decide these things).

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When I was in first year, I was not really observant. You see, I had so many other things to keep myself occupied with. I was busy trying to get adjusted to the life in overseas, making them suitable to my Islamic upbringing, get adjusted to the accent and get adjusted to going everywhere by bus (THAT was a major adjustment, alright!) and get adjusted to studying (Don’t even get me started on this because I could go on forever).

But by the time I was in my second year of med school, I noticed that a lot of people when they saw me (and people ALWAYS see me, if not stare at me, no matter how ORDINARY my activities are. To make myself feel better, I have come to attribute that phenomena to my drop dead gorgeous looks, lol) would suddenly get extra HORNY with their partner.

The first time that phenomena happened, I thought it must be a figment of my over imaginative mind. I am, after all, the younger sister of a novelist and am very keen to follow my sister’s path if medicine gets too boring in the future. My imagination is very fertile, indeed.

The second time it happened, again I shook my head in disbelief.

The third time…well, I speculated and arrived at a very self-flattering conclusion.

It was my damn good looks that made them horny! ROFL!!

And everytime the phenomena occurred around my vicinity, I just shrugged my shoulders, resigned to get myself a face veil in the future.

Imagine my surprise when another Muslim friend of mine suddenly let me know in no uncertain terms that she had experienced the exact same thing that I had. Imagine my disappointment, my dear readers!  I was crushed (beyond anything!!) that it wasn’t my damn good looks after all, that had gotten all those couples horny.

It was our hijab.

I have since then labeled this phenomena as:

THE HIJAB FETISH.

On a second thought, it might not be our hijab, per se. It might actually be the fact that with our hijab, we are easily identified as being Muslims.

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The first Hijab-Fetish Couple I had seen:

I saw this couple on a bus when I was on my way to John Hunter Hospital by bus. The girl had her dark hair dyed blond (I knew this because the roots looked as dark as coals, ugh, so ugly! What a BAD dye job!) and the guy had some piercings on his face (again, what makes them do all these piercings and tattoos! If you think my hijab is oppression, at least a lot of people said my hijabs are really pretty, okay!! But your ‘things’ that you do with freedom, just screamed BAD TASTE and possible diagnosis of HEPATITIS C ). At the risk of sounding superficial (for judging them based on their appearance), they didn’t look too educated or polished or sophisticated.

I climbed up the bus, paid the so-very-expensive bus fare, and sat right across the aisle from them at the special seating (usually reserved for elderlies and immobile people). They were  NORMAL at first. They were sitting at a perfectly acceptable distance. But after seeing me there, right across the aisle from them, suddenly my presence became too much a stimulation to be passively borne by them. A few minutes later they started kissing so very passionately, I had to look away just to give them some illusion of privacy.

Deep inside I was astonished that they would behave in a very lewd manner in public. And I wasn’t the only one who thought so. Other people (you know normal people without the towel or turban on their head, if you know what I mean) were staring too. One particularly elderly lady (her age might explain her wisdom) looked quite disgusted.

But I passed that off as:

1) In a western society, kissing publicly and soo…uh, enthusiastically, is normal.

2) Besides, they might come from a disadvantaged background and thus did not know how to behave in the polite society. I should give them my deeply-felt, whole-hearted sympathy.

The Second Hijab-Fetish Couple I had met:

– This time I was waiting at the hospital compound for my bus back home. I was doing emergency on-call on that day and by the time my shift was over, it was already quite dark outside. When I arrived at the hospital compound, I saw this attractive couple sitting on the metal bench (they were probably in the hospital visiting a relative and were waiting for their bus to head home). Again, they were not acting lewdly when I first appeared. But after a minute of noticing my presence on the bench next to theirs, they began to act all FUNNY! I couldn’t describe their exact behaviour with words since I am not quite used to describing these things…I probably wouldn’t have the proper English words for them.  The only word that comes to my mind now is, ANIMALISTIC…which I think is quite apt for a description.

We were alone. I felt really WEIRD, like I shouldn’t be there seeing these things. And while they are being BUSY, sometimes they would steal glances at me. At first, I thought they were glancing at me because they were trying to let me know that I was intruding. (Can’t you see that we need privacy here? Go wait for your bus inside the hospital, would you? We came here first, mind you!) So, I moved to the bench furthest away and looked elsewhere, giving my back to them.

But then, they started being LOUD. Well,  they were laughing out loud as though what they were  doing was a source of great hilarity. Oh my dear readers, it was most bizarre. If I didn’t know better, I would have thought they wanted as much attention directed towards them as possible.

My curiosity aroused, I stole glances at them. They began to get more enthusiastic. My goodness!!

I congratulated myself for my admirable ability to keep my jaw from swinging open. It spoke volume of my fabulous self-control.

The third couple; The fourth Couple….

Well, I could go on and on and on about this very interesting phenomena but the take-home-message is the same. When we compiled my experience with another friend of mine’s experience and another Muslim friend’s experience…the story is the same.

Certain people get horny when they see us. I feel so sorry for them. I hope this affliction would find a cure SOON because even when I am no longer here next year, the Malaysian medical students in the years below are still around. And there are still so many Saudi students too. Imagine getting horny every other half an hour! Poor people!!

ON A MORE SERIOUS NOTE….

I am sure you can guess what I am trying to get at.

You know how when you were little, you thought your parents didn’t know what you were about. You would cry and sulk, thinking they didn’t know your thrashing around  was your inspired way of getting their attention. But now that you have reached the age of maturity, you take one look at a child, and you know what is running through his mind when he smiles at you ingratiatingly as you walk into the room with a box of chocolate. Children are honest creatures…not because they never lie, but because we can always see through them.

Now, take this hijab-fetish phenomena as an example. What they are doing is a thinly disguised attempt at provoking us. I can arrive at several conclusions here:

1)  They are trying to provoke us. To annoy us. Or maybe trying to impress us. Or to shock us! Basically, they are just trying to get a reaction.

2) They are trying to let us see and know how free they are compared to us. Perhaps, to invoke jealousy in us. They thought we would think “oh, how I wish I could do what they do and be free.” Little did they know what I usually think is, “My uncle’s cats have much more finesse than you at this.” That is, when I wasn’t busy trying to tune out the girl’s irritating giggles. (Oh, I hope I never giggle that way in any moment, intimate or otherwise.)

3) Maybe they are, indirectly, trying to let us know what we are missing. But instead of doing it in malice, they are doing it with a misguided notion of sympathy.

Oh well, they are making a fool of themselves.

People can talk all they like about freedom of action. But to me, that rather antagonizes the practice of reason. It discourages intellectual discussion because every issue would end with the overused expression of ‘freedom of choice’. You go through your life in automatic mode (whatever-pleases-me-mode) without using the God-given brain to exercise your thinking process. If all actions that we do (that don’t harm others) are okay just because you are exercising your freedom, then every question in the future is settled. We don’t need to bother having an opinion or a thought about anything that doesn’t involve murder, stealing, corruption…and…well that’s pretty much it; the rest are just variation and degrees of stealing and murder.

But is that how life is supposed to be led? Is everything that doesn’t harm others are okay? Look at… the action of Jennifer Hawkins when she decided to don on her birthday suit to promote healthy body image among young girls! Puh – lease!! Only retarded people would believe such a myth!! But what happened when people question the sincerity behind her self-sacrificing and self-exploiting act? You get answers like:

a) I think her body’s great.

b) This is Australia! We are not in the Middle East. She is free to do whatever she likes.

b) If you don’t like it, you are in the wrong country.

If  people are to really talk about the heart of the matter: DOES JENNIFER HAWKINS GOING NUDE HELPS YOUNG PEOPLE WITH BODY IMAGE ISSUES? you would be able to come up with justification and pros and cons for both sides (though the perfect answer is obvious isn’t it? Sheesh). But when you start throwing ‘it’s her freedom to do so’….then the matter ends there. Like I said, this is the age when you can win an argument with that magic word: FREEDOM! Why bother thinking, right?

If you lead your life that way, you are a SAD creature!! I mean, it doesn’t matter to me what you want to do….but at least show me that you are doing something with good reason. Then, maybe I can at least respect you a little bit even if your action is against what I think is best. But when you start giving me a haughty look and utter that MAGICAL WORD, my respect for you went from neutral to non-existent!

Why is it that when a person do something because of religion, she/he is thought as oppressed and not able to think for himself/herself? But when a person do something just because she/he wants to, suddenly this person is thought as free? If you want to be fair, you should at least say that BOTH of them are not thinking. The only difference is, the former case usually ends with a better result than the latter.

So, now, religion aside, let us properly think how much of PDA (i.e public display of affection) is too much? How do you measure how much (that don’t harm others) is proper without going into culture and religion? There’s GOT to be a a benchmark. Basically, if you are not ruled by religion, you will be ruled by your society or your peer-pressure or your need to maintain a good reputation or some other things would rule you. No one is truly free!!

I don’t think it’s fair to judge people from a different culture based on your own culture. It would not yield an accurate result. So, let’s judge PDA based on the western culture because I am in the WEST and I am judging people who live in the WEST.

-Holding hands is okay, I suppose, at least in the Western society. I would still find it acceptable. (NOTE: not acceptable ANYWHERE in the Muslim society. Some people do it but when asked, the answers is the same: NOT ACCEPTABLE!!)

-Proper kissing, is still not frowned upon here. So, I guess, I will accept it in this society.

-But kissing and heated embrace that should be reserved as a foreplay in the bedroom….even the elderly lady in the bus felt disgusted by it! So, if an Australian find it terrible, it must be really bad behaviour indeed. But of course, you will always find people who would say ‘Oh, I wouldn’t do it myself but it’s their freedom to do whatever they like.’

Okay, you mean, the freedom to behave what is considered by the society as bad, I suppose.

In other words, you are propagating the freedom to behave badly, right??

Well, when somebody’s reason is sooo blindly wired, what else can you say?

I guess, I could probably just wink at the couple in heat or smile to myself at excessive PDA if I could be convinced that they are sincere while displaying their affection…but when you do it just to annoy me? Or worse, to impress me? Gosh! You are soooo SAD!!

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To be fair, most Western people in Australia are the decent sort. Especially since I am moving among the very professional medical students. They have self-respect and dignity.

As you can see (or read), from my first two stories, the HIJAB-FETISH people were the ones who did look like they have some retarded thinking process. In their case, look was not deceiving since the behaviour pretty much confirmed the suspicion that I had in mind when I gave them a look.

To me, some things are such common sense. Only ANIMALS copulate in public….even some animals have shame and would not do it when they know they are seen. And no self-respecting human beings would do it in public with the intention of being looked at while they are at it.

Unless, they are exhibitionists! In which case, I have to pity them. How sad it must be that your thrill of being with your loved one is only at its most maximum when you know someone is watching. How about just the thrill of being with someone you love, period!

I think, love-making is something so private because it’s so special that even a hint of it is not to be shared with just anyone who is not in that relationship. It shouldn’t be just for some thrill or other. The fact that you are being with each other should be thrilling enough. Lovemaking should be a non-verbal communication between two loving individuals (of opposite sex, mind you) in the privacy of their home.

To me, what I wouldn’t do in a hospital where I am known as a medical student (and therefore have to look professional) I wouldn’t do in public. Some doctors go to great length NOT to let other colleagues know that they are actually husband and wife, because they want to maintain that professionalism and that image of self-control.

And they are self-respecting enough not to let other people have a peek into their private lives.

But some people just don’t have that concept. Respect, self-control and dignity mean nothing to them.

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Some might question, what rights do you have to judge others?

Well, the answer lies in why you even bother dressing up to a job interview. The answer lies in why you even bother to buy those make-ups and expensive clothes. It lies in why in every occupation, there’s a dress code.

The answer is, everybody judges one another. The only difference between someone who is called judgmental and someone who is not called judgemental lies on whether or not he/she voices out loud what he/she thinks of you.

But don’t be fooled….all of us are judged every single moment of our lives.

Even if you want to make believe that no one SHOULD judge you here on earth, rest assured, you WILL be judged in the hereafter.

For the time being, you can deny it. Hopefully, it makes you feel better for anything that you choose to do in the future, no matter how outrageous, in the name of the MAGIC WORD freedom.

I guess,  this is where some people would throw me a real dirty look and go, “If you can’t accept the values of this society, then get out of Australia! Go back to your, country, towel-head!!”

Uh-huh! Impressive knowledge of what VISA is all about and what an amazing understanding of the fact that the International Students are paying a lot of money to study in Australia and such a commendable attitude to what is after all a simple business contract!!

And may I question your statement that excessive, outrageous PDA is the values of Australia? I have seen some Australian bloggers describing PDA as very distasteful in their opinion! In them, I see some hope for the rest of the society! Furthermore, I think they are the majority! You see, most of the time, the majority of the world society is still quite decent!!

But don’t you worry! I am out of Australia, next year. I will be going back home to my beloved Malaysia.

On a second thought, maybe I won’t go back home. Maybe I will stay in Australia.

Just to annoy you!

The Hijab Fetish: Hijab Makes Couples Horny

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