‘Muslims’ today are waging war against each other in the Middle East!

Would you not agree?

We are witnessing today, the world’s so-called Muslim nations suffering from strife and in disorder despite the huge amount of wealth and resources that Allah Azza Wa Jalla has bestowed upon us.

The hot burning sands of the Arabian desert was once a desolate, arid barren humongous expanse of parched land which even the Romans and Greeks of yesteryears shunned and bypassed to look for the riches of Egypt and elsewhere.

Allah the Most Merciful blessed the Middle Eastern countries with Oil in their lands. Petroleum. The most sought after Fossil Fuel that is much needed to operate automobiles and power generators.

These mostly ‘Muslim’ countries sadly are led by their leaders and rulers who spend the newfound wealth mostly on their flamboyant lifestyles and do not use it to help their long suffering Muslim brethren in less fortunate nations.

Today, we see the people of Yemen, brutally massacred by Saudi Arabian and UAE armed forces. More than 50,000 poor Yemenis have died from the aerial bombardment by Saudi Arabian fighter jets and many more as a result of hunger and malnutrition caused by the Saudi led blockade. 

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Instead of helping one another as enjoined in Islam, these Middle Eastern Arabs, who are ‘Muslims’ in name are waging war against their brethren south of the Arabian Peninsula.

Guess who are Saudi Arabia’s major weapons suppliers? The Americans, British, EU and others.

Life Changes: Choosing Divorce-American Muslimah’s Musings

Dear Reader,

I have not written in a while because I felt my life wasn’t social media worthy – shiny, picture perfect, staged just so and I did not want my life to become gossip fodder for those who have a negative intent or ill will towards me.

Over the last three years, I have struggled in my marriage with my husband.  We have attended marriage counseling twice both times initiated by myself.  I had hoped we could work through the issues we faced as a couple.  Some of the issues were not my own.  Some of them were.

I wavered back and forth to stay in my marriage or not.   There was a lot of familial and social pressure to stay – no matter what the issue that I was facing.  There was support from good friends and family to leave and set me up for a smooth transition out of the marriage.

I fought to reenter the workforce applying to over 150 jobs.  I succeeded when my daughter was 18 months old because I could foresee where things were heading.  I knew that if I did nothing that I there was a high probability I would shortly be homeless with a small child.

I could not rely on him.  I could not trust him to do the right thing.

I would hope I could again and again only to be disappointed.

I paid for and did all the paperwork for my husband to immigrate to this country.

I helped my husband gain his first job here in the United States working part-time for UPS and he was content with this.

I saw how he did not have a hunger for education to improve his career outcome and financial standing by working on his English language ability or seek to get a job that required full-time hours.

He was comfortable doing the bare minimum to get by.  He was comfortable and ok having us on MediCal and food stamps. He was comfortable and ok with my mom paying our rent. He saw no reason to change and step up.

I continued to see evidence of my husband’s lack of care and selfishness.  My mother in law asked me to take care of my husband and I think I and my family have stepped up to do so really well.

I finally decided it was time to rip the band-aid off in July.  So after 5 plus years of marriage, I filed for divorce.

I grew tired of being the sole responsible person in this marriage.  I am tired of not being a priority for my spouse.  I am tired of begging for affection and love only to be rejected in favor of pornography and sex workers.  I am tired of working full-time, being the parent, maid and cook all alone.

I am tired of being lonely.  I am tired of being tired.

I accept I can not change another person.  I can only change myself and control myself.

It is healthier for my daughter and myself that I not remain in a marriage where I am something to be used at my husband’s convenience be it for sex, money, a verbal punching bag or validation.

I felt I was a single parent long before this divorce started.  I do not think its right that I or any other parent should have to fight or argue to get the parent of the child to care for that kid’s needs – for example, something as simple as a diaper change regardless if the mother works outside of the home or not.

Being a parent means that you sacrifice your needs or delay them to tend to the needs of your child in my opinion especially when they are in the three years and under age group when their needs are the most intense and basic.

Some in the community and family would say – just stay – tough it out and do not air your “dirty laundry.”  To them I say – how is that in line with our Prophetic tradition and more importantly our Qur’an?  We were not made to suffer within unhappy and unhealthy relationships as my marriage has been.  It is this demand for silence and suffering that perpetuates abuse within our community.

It enables those who are not ready for the spiritual, financial and emotional responsibilities that being in a marriage entails – to get married and create a pool of single mothers that then struggle to create support networks, reenter the workforce, move out of poverty and fend off being targeted by men who would abuse their power and privilege – not to marry these women but seek sexual gratification in the guise of the promise of marriage or even orfi (temporary) marriage.

Marriage is work and it is not all sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns.   The wedding and all of the pomp and circumstance around it is not the entirety of a marriage.

Marriage can be a boring daily grind where you simply are happy that the person you chose to be with is there in the trenches with you as you collapse into bed at midnight knowing you are both going to get up and repeat the cycle again the next day.

I remain optimistic that I will one day find the right partner for this journey in the Dunya.   My journey right now requires me to make hard decisions with a focus on what is healthy, safe and moves myself and child forward to a better future.


“There’s a difference between giving up and knowing when you’ve had enough.”

Dicing with Death ~ Winner or Sinner? Our Choice.

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Ya Ikhwanul Muslimin na wal Mukminat. Today I am inviting you to think about the inevitable. Our Last Moment here on Earth. Our Death. Ajal.

Is there any guarantee that we would be in Allah’s good graces when our Time is up? Just like the metronome, our fate depends on what we are up to at the very second the Malaikatul Maut @ Angel of Death, Sayyidina Izra’il Alaihis Salam comes a calling upon us.

You never know whether we are going to Heaven or Hell depending on our last deed here on Earth?

In Surah Al Munafiqun, Chapter 63 Verse 10, Allah Azza Wa Jall reminds us to be in His Path using what He has provided us with for if and when Death approaches us, we would be inclined to ask for a postponement in order that we would then be charitable in the hope of ending up among the righteous.

So, in a way, we are all dicing with Death. The Choice of being a Winner or get caught up with our moment of Death where we would be classified as a Sinner!

Would we get to pass away from this Life in Husnul Khatimah @ The Best of Ending or end up in Su’ul Khatimah? The Worst of Ending’s? Na’uzubillah! May Allah Forbid!

Death is inevitable. It doesn’t care if you are a Royal King or ordinary Commoner. Even if you are being surrounded by the best doctors and specialists of the world, when your time is up, you will die. Period.

Don’t wait to be a Muslim till you are already breathing your last on your deathbed. Sure, your entire record of sins which you have committed are erased and deleted from your accounts the minute that you declare your attestment of faith @ Shahadah towards Allah the Almighty and attesting that Muhammad is the [Final] Messenger of Allah but surely embracing Islam and living your life as a Muslim whilst you are young and healthy would be much more meaningful.

Be thankful that you are still alive by the Grace and Mercy of Allah and getting to read and understand all that is being shared here in this article.

You owe it to yourself to decide where you wish to end up after leaving this earthly existence. Choose where you want your soul to be after your death.

Heaven or Hell?

Your Choice.

Dr. Zakiya Bomani Moyenda MD, MBA, Caller to Islam, Florida, USA. delivering his Khutbah in Las Vegas, Nevada.

Dr..Zakiya Bomani Moyenda

The gist of his khutbah is about what we as individual Muslims are leaving as our legacy here on Earth?

How we want to be remembered? What we are doing to help share with others the Truth of Islam, the Beauty and Bounties that one can find in Islam, etcetera.

We live and will die within a certain time frame here on Earth with the Will and Consent of Allah.

We are accountable for what we do during our temporal life here on Earth. Dr.Zaki’s topic in his Khutbah is very important.

We have to ask ourselves. ‘What is going to be our legacy?’

Ramadhan Mubarak! 1440 AH/ 2019 CE. Blessed Month.

MBA Bloggers Ramadhan Well Wishes

We would like to wish all our fellow Muslims, a Blessed Ramadhan this 1440 AH / 2019 CE.

Despite all that we see taking place in this challenging times in these End Times, the spirit of Goodwill and Month of Purification of both our bodies and soul takes precedence over everything else.

May Allah the Most Compassionate and Most Merciful accept our Fasting and other Ibadah and reward us with His Forgiveness and Blessings.

Ameen.